me...

i just got through watching yet another scene in which someone living was reunited with their dead love. As i was shaking with tears, it occurred to me that these scenes have almost nothing to do with Death. They instead employ Death as a metaphor for loss. In fact, i suspect that Death is more often a metaphor than not. And how clever of us.

It's easier to deal with loss as Death because...
1) neither person is responsible for not being together.
2) the lost person does not change and grow apart.
3) the lost person is unable to find a new love.
4) at least our loss wasn't Death.
5) Death itself becomes diluted.

We can get out all of our abandonment issues, all of our conflicts with change and loss, in childlike simplicity, and never consciously deal with them. Instead we say, "i was crying because of Death. Death is sad." i wonder how these scenes go over in Mexico.

posted by Arthur @ 5/22/2002 11:41:00 AM

Wednesday, May 22, 2002